Negative Soul Ties: Friendships

Understanding Soul Ties Today’s Focus: Negative Soul Ties Part 1: Friendships Scripture: Deuteronomy 13:6-9; Hebrews 4:12 Greetings Sons of God: When we started this series we examined the fact that Soul ties can either be positive or negative and everyone in this life will at some point experience both. Three of the common areas by which we are affected by soul ties are: 1. Friendship 2. Commitment to group, organization or institution 3. Sexual Union In most cases, you come to the knowledge of the negative soul ties by the positive soul ties within the Body of Christ. Now let’s examine the negative soul ties. Negative or ungodly Soul ties are steep in deception and repetitive patterns of abuse. Let’s start examining these various types of soul ties. The first one that is typically found in unions through friendships: Friendship: Deuteronomy 13:6-9: If thy brother, the son of thy mother, or thy son, or thy daughter, or the wife of thy bosom, or thy friend, which is as thine own soul, entice thee secretly saying, Let us go and serve other gods, which thou hast not known, thou, nor thy fathers; Namely of the god of the people which are round about you, nigh unto thee, or far off from thee, from the one end of the earth even unto the other end of the earth; Thou shalt NOT CONSENT UNTO HIM, NOR HEARKEN UNTO HIM; NEITHER SHALL THINE EYE PITY HIM, NEITHER SHALT THOU SPARE, NEITHER SHALT THOU CONCEAL HIM: But thou shalt surely kill him; thine hand shall be first upon him to put him to death, and afterwards the hand of all the people. The word friend in the world is so carnally thrown around that many people have no clue what a true friend is. What we call friends today are really associates and really when we put it to the Spirit, they are really enemies of the cross. But when we connect ourselves to these people and call ourselves friends whatever baggage or insecurities they are carrying, many times suck you into their situations and because you say we are “friends” we will compromise on what is right for the sake of maintaining the friendship. The loyalty that we make to people who we call friends can be very dangerous and deep to a point that we will risk our very life for something that is wrong and ungodly because of our soul tie to our friend. If we examine the scripture above we will see the Lord warning the children of Israel about joining themselves to people who are not of like mind, and like-faith. Unfortunately the children of Israel would connect themselves to many ungodly nations and this would anger the Lord and He would allow those nations to oppress them and rule over them in many situations. These people we think we know as “friends”, if they lead you after false gods you are not to connect yourself with that person. Cut your relationship off and denounce that union or friendship before the Lord. So many times we are scared to release people who are really unhealthy to our spiritual walk. As a personal testimony, before the Lord started me in ministry the Lord had to show me relationships that I had to sever before I could even begin. I prayed and ask the Lord to remove people who would hinder my spiritual walk with the Lord and ultimately the Lord removed every person and said “Now who do you have?” I replied “You Lord!” The Lord is our best, true and faithful friend that we can count on every day, hour, minute, second. As I committed my life to the Lord and doing His will, He then began to order relationships and friendships within the Body that would help and mature my spiritual walk with Him. As long as I was “connected” with these other people and calling them my friends, the Lord could not do anything with me because it would damage the work that He needed me to do. I was in covenant with the wrong people and needed to separate myself from unfruitful friendships and allow the Lord to set friendships within the Body that would help and mature me to advancing His Kingdom. Let us examine who we call friends and allow the spirit of God to discern the intentions of the heart of the individuals (Hebrews 4:12) and as He reveals the intentions we have a choice to leave them and sever our “friendship” or stay connected, and not mature and eventually die without reaching your full purpose in Christ. In the next message we will look at soul ties created by commitment to a group or organization. Peace, Love and Grace, Calvin Calhoun, Jr.